How To Spy On Your Ex?
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Happy Fri-YAY, party people! The weekend is just around the corner, and it’s time to celebrate!
To kick off the festivities, today’s task is:
📌 Plan a fun activity for the weekend - whether it’s a movie night, a picnic, or trying out a new hobby
A change of pace can help you step back, sparking fresh ideas and renewed motivation. Looking forward to a planned activity can keep you motivated through the week while taking a proper break makes it easier to return on Monday with renewed focus.
So, whether you go for a movie, a picnic, or a new hobby, you’ll start the new week feeling refreshed, connected, and inspired.
Now, let’s start with the day…
Use this ‘Venmo’ trick
We've all had those unexpected run-ins with an ex, whether it’s at your favorite coffee spot, a local farmer’s market, or even at a friend's gathering. And the reactions? Almost always the same. You freeze, nudge your friend, and quietly ask, "Is that... her?" The two of you speculate, waiting for confirmation until a shoulder brush or quick kiss seals the deal. It’s never a pleasant discovery, right?
But imagine finding out about your ex’s new relationship not at a coffee shop but on... Venmo. Yes, Venmo, that handy app for splitting dinner bills, which has somehow become an accidental sleuthing tool for exes.
Madison from Philadelphia, found herself in this exact situation. While casually scrolling through Venmo, she stumbled upon her ex charging a familiar name — a girl they both knew from high school. Madison’s memories flooded back: this was the same girl from her old part-time job, the sweet coworker from the beauty supply store. And now, there she was, dating her ex.
Madison couldn’t help but laugh at the irony. Her ex had this habit of making her split every meal, and here he was, doing the same thing to his new girlfriend.Similarly, Kylie from Massachusetts got her closure from Venmo. When her boyfriend of four years missed her best friend’s wedding, claiming he had “other plans,” she thought something was up. A few days later, she saw a Venmo charge for “shots at the Patriots game” — for her boyfriend and another girl. That one line of text confirmed her worst suspicions. Heartbroken, Kylie pieced together that he had been seeing someone else for months.For these women, Venmo became more than an app - it was a tool that nudged them toward reality. In fact, the app can reveal glimpses of an ex’s life that we might not even want to see or need to see. While curiosity is natural, it can become a slippery slope, one that ends with us refreshing our ex’s profile for updates that keep us anchored in the past.
So, how do you avoid falling into that trap?
📌 Understand the urge to check up
The desire to keep tabs on an ex is often driven by a need for closure or reassurance. You might wonder if they’re happier or if they miss you. But ask yourself: Will knowing the answer really change anything? Or will it keep you from moving on? Accepting that some questions don’t have easy answers is a healthy step toward letting go.
📌 Replace the habit
If checking your ex’s social media has become a habit, replace it with something positive. Instead of reaching for your phone to check their status, text a friend, go for a quick walk, or start a new hobby. Building new routines can help reframe your mindset, making it easier to focus on things that make you happy.
📌 Be honest with yourself about how it makes you feel
Reflect on how seeing updates about your ex affects you. Does it leave you feeling better, or does it open old wounds? Often, the need to check up on an ex brings more harm than healing. Remind yourself that you’re prioritizing your well-being by not engaging in behavior that brings you down.
📌 Remember: Social Media isn’t reality
What people post online is just a highlight reel. That new relationship or fun weekend trip might look perfect on the screen, but it doesn’t reflect the full picture. Realizing this can help you let go of the idea that they’ve somehow “moved on perfectly,” making it easier to focus on your own path forward.
📌 Remind yourself why it ended
Reflect on the reasons you broke up and remember that those reasons were important enough to make a major life decision. Keep those in mind when you’re tempted to snoop. Reminding yourself of why things didn’t work out can help you shift your focus back to what you want and need moving forward.
📌 Get Real Support
Talking to a friend, family member, or therapist about lingering feelings can help you process them in a healthy way. Having an outlet for your emotions and a support system makes it easier to avoid the temptation of checking in on your ex.
Breaking the habit of “checking in” can be challenging, especially in a world where everyone’s life is just a click away. But remember, every moment spent looking back at your ex is a moment you could be investing in yourself. Letting go might feel tough at first, but it will eventually help you create a happier, healthier path forward.
So, that’s it for today. Let’s meet again next week 👋 Till then, stay safe!
